Understanding Where and When to Direct our Energy

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
The Serenity Prayer

Understanding where and when to direct our energy is so important for our peace and happiness. Everyday we are presented with battles we should avoid and some we need to lean into. Having the wisdom to see the difference is crucial. 


As we were traveling back home from a 6 talk speaking circuit in North Dakota we ran into some travel pains in Chicago. Our plane had mechanical issues so we had to get another one. The other plane arrived two hours later and that one had mechanical issues too. We had to get on a 3rd plane. People were irate! 


Once we arrived at our final destination 4 hours later in West Palm Beach, I soon figured out that our suitcase was missing! They never put it on the 3rd plane. It was left in Chicago. 🤦‍♂️ 


As much as I wanted to gripe and complain to the gate agent or to the service member at baggage claim I knew it wouldn’t help and it certainly wasn’t their fault. To my disappointment, some travelers took out their frustrations on gate agents, flight attendants, and service members. In most of these situations people get MORE escalated because there is little to nothing that can be done. What a waste. 


Yelling at a flight attendant when the plane has mechanical issues won’t fix the plane. Wishing you were taller, shorter, or smarter won’t change the present circumstance. Undoing past decisions is not possible. No matter how hard you try you can’t force someone to like you. 


Every ounce of effort directed at something you simply can’t influence is effort not going to what you can change. In every situation there are decisions and actions that are in your control. You can influence your future with the choices you make in this present moment. Think through every action that you can take and could make a difference. 


Do you spend most of your time and energy on things out of your control? 

How can you redirect your effort on the actions & decisions that will create a better future?